Getting Started with Restraints

🔑 Core Principles for Beginners in BDSM

• Consent is non‑negotiable: Everything must be agreed upon in advance. Use clear verbal consent.

• Communication: Discuss boundaries, limits, and expectations before any activity. Check in during and after.

• Safe words: Establish a word (like “red” for stop, “yellow” for slow down) so both partners can communicate clearly if something becomes uncomfortable.

• Trust: Only engage with someone you trust deeply. Restraints require a high level of responsibility.

🛡️ Safety First

• Avoid unsafe restraints: Beginners should start with soft restraints (like padded cuffs or fabric ties) rather than metal handcuffs, which can cause injury if misused.

• Circulation checks: Make sure restraints aren’t cutting off blood flow—watch for numbness, tingling, or discoloration.

• Never leave someone unattended: Restraint play requires constant supervision.

• Quick release: Always use a quick‑release mechanism product or if you are using rope have scissors available.

📚 Further Learning Resources

• Workshops & Classes: Many cities around the UK have kink‑aware workshops that focus on safety and consent.

• Online communities: Educational forums and kink‑aware organizations often share beginner safety guides.